And.....ladies and gents, I present to you...my response.
What does it mean to be attractive?
This is a topic many people do not talk about in public simply because the term ‘attractive’ is subjective to opinion. There is no ‘right or wrong’ answer when asked this controversial question. The world has one opinion of what attractive people look like. For women, she has medium sized breasts, substantially long legs, a slender frame and lean build.
Once you have the basics down, you can “dress her up” however you want: blonde hair or brown hair, blue eyes or green eyes, freckles or no freckles. It sounds reasonable, but in reality, the ratio of people who have the genetic composition to possibly look like that to the people who actually look like that is astonishingly disappointing. The world’s opinion of an attractive man is also seemingly reasonable, yet completely overrated. He has short-looking hair (probably spiked up with Axe hair-gel or something); he would be tall, somewhere between six and six and a half feet, broad shoulders, and sculpted pectoral and abdominal muscles.
It is so easy to identify and ‘accept’ these opinions of what an attractive person looks like because that is what we see all the time, no matter where we are or what we are doing.
People will argue that because these images and ideas are so widely spread that they must be true, and we can either accept them, or lie to make ourselves feel better. Others will argue that everyone is attractive in their own way and that no one should ever tell anyone else that they are not attractive. Well, both sides are full of it.
You can’t answer one way or the other. If you only care about being physically attractive, then argument one would be more logically reasonable; if you only care about being mentally attractive (i.e. having an attractive personality, shared sense of humor and reason-based opinions, etc.), then argument two is much more logical. But the reality is, that not one person on this planet, or any other for that matter, cares solely about one type over the other, meaning that they would look only at being physically attractive or only being mentally attractive. It is impossible to think that way. We are human beings, and we desire to be completely desired by one other person; we want that one person to want every part of us, physically and mentally. We desire to want someone in both aspects as well. If a female was solely physically attracted to a male, but he was aggressive and beat her, or had multiple affairs going on with numerous other females, the original female would be so ‘turned off’ that she would no longer be attracted to him. Most people in current times would call this male some vulgar names and use awful descriptions. Do not mistake me, this is a two-way street here. A male could be just as easily attracted to a female, and she would just as likely be aggressive and abuse him, or have multiple affairs with other men and the original would be horrified by this females actions! It is implausible to believe that people, human beings, can equate the whole meaning of the word ‘attractive’, with part of the definition or the other.
Being attractive is discovering that someone else on this planet thinks and feels the same things you do; that someone else on this Earth has common interests, and a similar sense of humor. Finding someone to be attractive means to find someone to be in unison with you--not a carbon copy, but a companion, a significant other. Being ‘attractive’ is a universal idea that no one can define because of the human interactions and desires associated with the idea.
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